By Anna Bennett
In my last post, I posted a clip from PBS Second Opinion Stat!: Kidney Disease, and while going through the related website to the episode, I came across some key points, the first being:
In management of a chronic disease, the burden on the caregiver is great, and there are physical and emotional costs to the caregiver. The patient is not the only one who needs to be watched and taken care of.
Even though the majority of people in CKD5 have a caregiver, the role of caregiver does not get much ink here on SEON, Bill and I are solo dialyzors, (ok, so now I am a former solo dialyzor - I've actually started calling myself a monourinator). Bill experienced being a caregiver this summer when his mother was ill,
and it was an eye opening experience for him. Peter is married and currently incenter, and Mel was dialysing at home with her husband, (now Husband/Donor) Andy.
When you love someone who
is ill, you too are suffering - it is the nature of human attachment. This excerpt from Key Point 1 is a great reminder that you need to be a caregiver to yourself as well as the person that you love:
The energies of the caregiver can become totally absorbed by their
loved one's illness. Many caregivers try to provide care
single-handedly and end up neglecting their own needs. It's not
uncommon for them to think that their life has to come second to the
needs of their loved one. Yet, in additional to an overwhelming volume
of things to be done, they also have to come to terms with the
sacrifices they're making – the loss of the fullness of their personal
relationship with the ill person plus the life choices they are no
longer free to make – and their own emotions. Family members feel the
same shock, fear, anger, sadness and loss as the person who is ill.
They are the witnesses to their loved ones' physical and emotional
deterioration.
Chronic stress without relief can lead to both physical and emotional problems. Research shows that caregivers:
- Are more likely to be have symptoms of depression or anxiety
- Are more likely to have a long-term medical problem, such as heart disease, cancer, diabetes, or arthritis
- Have higher levels of stress hormones
- Spend more days sick with an infectious disease
- Have a weaker immune response to the influenza (flu) vaccine
- Have slower wound healing
- Have higher levels of obesity
- May be at higher risk for mental decline, including problems with memory and ability to concentrate
A study of caregivers published in a 1999 issue of the Journal of the American Medical Association
reported that elderly spousal caregivers (aged 66-96) who experience
caregiving-related stress have a 63% higher mortality rate than
non-caregivers of the same age.
The irony is that the well-being of the patient depends on the
well-being of the caregiver. By neglecting themselves, caregivers put
their loved one in danger of losing their most important support
person. To evaluate your level of caregiving stress, take a simple
test from the PBS Caregiver's Handbook (part of the web site for the 90-minute program Caring for Your Parents). Go to Caregiver Self-Assessment Questionnaire (PDF).
So, let's take a moment for the caregivers, even though they do not physically feel the pain of the needle sliding into the access, or the wave of nausea when suddenly your body reminds you that something is not right, We, the dialyzors can't feel their pain of being helpless while someone they love is being kept alive by a machine.
Here is the link to webisode Family Caregivers Issues
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